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Ask and receive

Doors open to them who ask.

As babies everyone asked for help via crying, then society educated the act in asking out of most of us.

As babies everyone asked for help via crying, then society educated the act of asking out of most of them.

“Open Sesame” said Ali Baba to a door, which opened wide to him, wherein he collected treasure from a cave, as told in the story Ali Baba and the Forty Thieves. This is a better lesson than the quote in a psalm I used to sing in a choir “Blessed are the meek: for they shall inherit the earth.”  The meek grow hungry and die, submissiveness wins no friends and no rewards.  Ironically in the same Christian gospel by Matthew is another contradictory quote “Keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for.”

Walking through my town of Colchester a man told me a story how he was unable to get a railway ticket home, could I give him money to pay for a ticket? It was a scam, I have seen him do this before, I told him to get lost.  I looked round and the trickster told the same story to a woman, out came the purse and the man was a little richer through the asking.  I thought to myself, you are kidding me, is that woman gullible? Yes! The trickster probably had hundreds of rejections, but the few opportunities that turned into money made his effort worthwhile.  Regardless of the morality of his scam, asking pays out its rewards.

I hate asking people for anything, it makes me feel weak, opportunistic and any number of other negative feelings associated with asking that has been drummed into me by society.  At one time everyone asked for everything they needed, as babies, they screamed and cried, the carer came running to satisfy their need, the difference between survival and death. As a child I was the submissive one who never asked, I was ignored and forgotten.  The meek lose out in the game of life.

Visit Colchester Castle Park and every squirrel, pigeon and duck is your very best friend; it is the animals way of asking for food; the animals of Castle Park never go hungry.

It is early days as I attempt to shake off this stigma of not asking, it is hard.  A few days ago a driver let me down in picking up an urgent delivery, I had to ask someone for help, through the asking I was able to overcome this crisis.  A business project required I visit every retail outlet in Colchester centre to display brochures for an art gallery, it involved me asking 1000+ people, with a 99% success rate.

Opportunities won’t come by sitting on your bum, you have to go and make them, and asking people directly is opening doors to opportunity, the worst you can obtain is no, but some opportunities open to treasure.  In asking you have to prepare like the trickster for hundreds of rejections, which can be demoralising, but amongst the rejections will come the opportunities.  Often through the asking unexpected opportunities arise, perhaps not the thing asked for, perhaps something better, or something else of benefit.

The following TED lecture opened my eyes to the positive “art of asking”:

If life throws you lemons make lemonade

Find the positive in negative situations. 

Children have been turning these Castle Park slopes into winter fun for hundreds of years.

Children have been turning these Colchester Castle Park slopes into winter fun for hundreds of years.

New day, leaping out of bed, throwing open the curtains – snow.

My first word of the new weekend was a rude word.  Lets think positive over this I thought,  snow means opportunity for great photographs contrasting spring against winter.  Childish enthusiasm sets in as I wait for the snow fall to subside, then it is off on the hunt for great photographs.

There is a saying that if lemons are thrown at you by life, use the lemons to make lemonade.  Hunt for the positive in the negative.

For your information the ongoing winter across the north of the world is thanks to the Jet Stream being trapped, so high and low pressure systems are stuck in place, meaning extremes of snow, flood and drought.  Since the paralysis of the Jet Stream looks to be an ongoing long-term pattern, the positive to some is the opportunity to run a business to provide products and services for people hit by snow, drought and flood in their community or beyond.

How to play the energy system and win

Energy systems can be played like a card or strategy game to win in life.

You can play an energy system like a card game or a board game.  Know the rules, play skilfully and concentrate on good energy.

You can play an energy system like a card game or a board game. Know the rules, play skilfully and concentrate on good energy.

You are dealt a hand of cards, which when you play with skill according to the rules results in you winning the game.  Energy systems are like a game of cards with rules, which you can play to your advantage.  I am only going to concentrate on one aspect of this energy game, which is why you should focus your card game towards the good energy in life rather than the bad energy.

Every object in this universe is either a, or part of, an energy system through which energy flows. Your body, this blog and the planet earth are all examples of energy systems.  All these energy systems are chaotic, self organising and interconnected systems.  The energy systems work according to observable processes that is relevant to your body as it is to our galaxy.  You can through observation gradually work out the rules of the processes by which the energy systems work by, then play them to your advantage.

Energy is the currency of all these energy systems, so you need to think in terms of seeing everything as energy in an energy system if you are to play this game well.  Energy is your playing cards, you have choice of how you play or change your cards which determines your outcomes.

Energy systems are on a spectrum from healthy to sick based upon the type of energy in play in the system.  Although there are many forms of energy, for simplicity in this game we can split it between good energy that makes you healthy and bad energy that makes you sick.  If you have a healthy energy system then you get prosperity, which is health, happiness and abundance; if the energy system is sick you get sickness, misery and poverty.  You may have observed the objective of this game is you play cards with good energy to win prosperity, which is your prize for winning this game.

You have no need to be a caring or compassionate person to play this game, this will appeal to anyone’s self-interest to attract prosperity into their lives rather than the wasteland of its opposite.  There is nothing mystical about this game, nor have you any need for morality.  You play good energy cards skilfully according to a set of rules for personal gain, just as a professional card or strategy game player would. The principles are natural and are not rocket science.

You have a choice of playing a good energy card or a bad energy card.  I advise you to discard the bad energy cards and focus on the good energy cards.  Good energy attracts good energy according to three areas as follows:


All energy systems have feedback processes built into them. If you do a kindness to another human being they are likely to feedback kindness to you.  Feedback may be direct, for instance you befriend a dog by being friendly towards it, the dog might head off and find a ball to invite you to play a game with it.

Feedback may be indirect for example if you throw a piece of litter on the ground.  This litter is bad energy, it may seem that there is no feedback at you personally from dropping that litter but it sets off a chain reaction that may come back at you.  The litter you dropped encourages others to drop litter.  The litter attracts the rats and bacteria who bring with them diseases.  Everyone is encouraged to see the mass of litter as a dumping zone, so they dump asbestos, chemical drums and general waste.  Nobody now wants to visit the area except the lowlifes.  It happens you have to pass through that area where you dumped the piece of litter, you get mugged by a lowlife, ending disabled for the rest of your life.  The piece of litter and the mugger may be different in appearance, but in essence they are the same bad energy which grew until it eventually came back to haunt you.

Energy fields

The reason why energy systems like your body have order, stability and self-organising ability is they have energy fields.  These energy fields resist entropy and is why these energy systems wont immediately fall apart into entropy.  These energy fields are charged to favour good or bad energy.

Energy fields are charged to attract the sort of energy you have been throwing out into your own energy system.  All inputs and outputs in your energy system must first pass through your energy field, and this will charge it in favour of good or bad energy.  With regards to your own energy field it has no concept of inside or outside, so if you harm another person the energy field will treat that as harm to self.

Nothing is fixed in self.  An energy field can be changed indirectly through energy inputs or outputs.  All changes to energy fields has an energy cost, learning a new skill from scratch has less cost than undoing a bad habit.

In your card game dealing with good energy will imprint onto the energy field a charge in favour of good energy.  If you however imprint bad energy onto an energy field, it will start attracting bad energy, and presents a high-energy cost challenge to reverse.  Energy fields can be habituated to smiling at everyone each day, just as they can create an addiction to drugs.

Energy blocking

The more good energy flowing through your energy system the more it will block out bad energy.  The reverse is that bad energy has a blocking capability on good energy.  Everyone has met someone who is either buzzing with positivity or walking cloud of misery, and in both cases it is difficult to break a highly positive person with negativity, just as it is difficult to get a depressed person to see the brighter side of life.

Opportunities for breaking the cycle

You note that once good or bad energy is in abundance in an energy system that a self-perpetuating loop is created which can make it healthy or sick.  Excess good energy leaves your energy system to often create such an impression on the outside world that it will become the legacy which will live on after you die.  Bad energy causes entropy, which collapses energy systems.  It is this energy collapse that can offer an opportunity to break the negative-cycle in an energy system.  As I understand it the energy field collapses dumping energy it has been holding into the outside world, this causes a feedback against the energy system, which can come in the form of a crisis or helper to reboot the energy system.  An example of this in mythology is when King Arthur screwed up, and the Holy Grail became involved to restore the sick land.  In history the French on the verge of total defeat to the English got a miracle helper in Joan of Arc.  In every day life,  the opportunity could be as a bloody revolution, an assassination, a nervous breakdown, an accident, sickness, divorce, redundancy, or burn out.  These opportunities tend to attempt to reboot the failing energy system, but it is painful, messy and destructive.

Going Walkabout to be creative

Creativity is nurtured through new experiences.

Go Walkabout to nurture your creativity.

Go Walkabout to nurture your creativity.

The Australian Aborigines has a rite of passage where the young Aborigine undertakes a spiritual journey of six months in the wilderness called a Walkabout.  If you intend to nurture creativity you also have to step outside of your reality and head off on an unknown path, to undertake your own Walkabout.

I mentioned in my blog post yesterday titled “What is creativity?” that creativity is the ability to make connections.  Those connections won’t be easy to make in a controlled regulated environment; you have to let go, hit the road into the unknown, experience new realities that challenge your existing paradigms.  What fun to be the knight riding out into the unknown forest, rescuing maidens, fighting evil dark knights, slaying dragons and finding enchanted objects.  My Celtic ancestors knew how to have fun, even if it was only in their storytelling.

Going Walkabout is a strategy that is useful to develop your creativity.  If you are on holiday, rather than head off towards the predictable tourist traps, you could head off to the places tourists rarely go.  There is a type of tourist called a Dark Tourist who visits dangerous places marked by death and tragedy. If you are researching a project, go Walkabout with no fixed ideas around the subject of research, go off at tangents and keep an open mind.

I spent two hours today going on Walkabout through WordPress.  I started with my latest blog follower Sean D.Daily.  Having already visited his blog earlier in the day, I went off again to read his latest post, a quote from Bruce Lee.  I happen to like Bruce Lee, and his ideas are worth consideration, he said:

“Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.”

Which challenged a paradigm I have that it is good to copy a successful person.  Thus I had my first example of creativity, a challenge to my existing paradigms.  Now for next couple of months I will be considering which is the right paradigm.

From the blog of Sean I clicked onto one of his listed blogroll links, I found myself seeing a half-naked photograph of Einstein, Winston Churchill in his bathing costume, and Dr Stephen Hawking walking and partying before being reduced to his iconic state he now exists in.  As this was not a blog, I returned back to Sean, then off I visited one of those who  “liked” a post of Sean’s.  Like any adventure you hit a dead-end and retrace your footsteps, so I was back to Sean a few times.  I then travelled from blog through to blog following blogroll links, likes, or comments, randomly, leaving my own trail of likes and comments behind me.

One blog I came across was a blogger who in his “About” page informed the world he hated himself and how everyone he knew seemed to backstab him.  I made a constructive comment as follows:

“I leave two pieces of advice for you:
1. How you treat yourself is how you will treat others. Try and find that part of you to love.
2. You have the choice of what and who you connect with in life. Cut the toxic connections and build the positive ones.”

He responded in an angry bitter way that surprised me:

“Your advice is both naive, and unsolicited. I do not seek advice from anyone on my blog, although I welcome sophisticated philosophical and existential conversations. (By sophisticated, I mean discussions with people familiar with formal logic, or at least a modicum of formal philosophical training.) Your first suggestion is just silly; self-loathing does not provide a necessary or sufficient condition for treating others badly. One sees the self in fundamentally different ways than others, so I have no idea upon what legitimate basis you made your statement. The second suggestion bears some plausibility, but attachment is a very real emotional, and perhaps spiritual, phenomenon. People often say that when they lose someone that they love dearly, they feel like a part of them goes missing. I concur with the appraisal, and as such, I not only mourn the loss of my lover, but I mourn the loss of a part of myself. Toxic or not, I cannot simply throw away the love, emotions, or memories that I build with the people I really love. Only a sociopath would suggest it’s possible to discard such profound attachments.”

Here then is an example of an individual who is trapped in his own self-defeating paradigms, his creativity shut off from considering new possibilities, even if it comes uninvited under his nose.  Such attitudes slam the door on possibilities for change, for new connections to be made, it becomes a mind trap keeping an individual locked into an unhappy state as that blogger currently exists in.

Not all experiences on a Walkabout are magical, inspirational or challenging, often it is dull, but nonetheless the self has been allowed off the leash to explore the unknown, and this is a good way to nurture creativity.

Children need boundaries

Childhood anxiety is often the result of poor boundaries that encourage insecurity.

Children need to feel secure to grow.

Children need to feel secure to grow.

One of the great issues children suffer from is anxiety.  This anxiety spawns many symptoms from suicide to bullying.  An industry has been built up to profit from childhood anxiety in the form of therapists to drugs, an industry which would rather the child continue to exist in this anxious state.  Anxiety spins off because of insecurity, and the insecurity is caused by ineffective boundaries, the solution is healthy boundaries.

Children are a resource, like seed in the ground, they are potential, a resource that is still to manifest and flower.  The carer and teacher are the gardeners, and society provides the soil in which these seeds will grow from.  Like everything humanity has poisoned the soil in which these seeds are growing, and the gardeners are less skilled and wise in their ability than former generations.

All children need security if they are to flourish. If the child is anxious they waste energy on dealing with the crisis rather than growing.  The answer is healthy boundaries, which provide protection, opportunities to grow and a structure for the child to build a world view of self and reality.  The current boundaries that the majority of children encounter in the English-speaking world are bad, they fail to provide opportunities to grow, and are so vague that the child has little idea what or where they are.


Yasmeen Olya makes a good point on how to protect children in her blog post. Anything that makes a child feel insecure leads to anxiety, which pulls away resources that could have been used for growing.  If there are troubles in the family or in the world, the child has no need to know about it.  Protection is age and ability dependent, a child should only come into contact with sex, violence and the problems of society when they are emotionally able to handle it; if they come against anything they are not ready for they suffer anxiety on a crippling level.  Television, video games and internet would be better eliminated or severely limited for most pre-teens.


Children grow if they are given the opportunity to play, experience and do. One of the important opportunities is giving children access to nature.  Nature is a great teacher, it will present children with natural challenges that prepare the child emotionally for the raw world of human society.  Children will encounter sex, death, suffering, violence in nature, as well as the living, nurturing, beauty and nobility that nature provides too. Children can play, swim, dig, climb and create in a social experiential environment.  There are many forms of opportunity beyond nature, and they all provide growing opportunities as longs as they are unstructured and available.  Opportunities need only adults to teach skills and knowledge, but the process or route the child chooses to create and explore should be left to them.  The human body is designed for activity so all opportunities are good if they encourage physical, emotional and intellectual activity in a liberated open way.  See anaturemom.com for what I mean about opportunities.


To a certain extent children come into the world with no sense of self or reality.  It is through play, doing and experience that the child slowly constructs a world view.  The child automatically borrows a world view from their carers and teachers as a substitute whilst they slowly construct their own.  It is down to the carer and teacher to provide a clear world view for the child which sets the limits which the child works in.  If the boundaries are unclear or invisible the child has no idea who they are or where they are in the world; suddenly the world grows into a large and dangerous place, insecurity sets in and then so does anxiety.  The structure starts off restricted with few choices, but grows as the child grows.

Boundaries that are ability dependent

Whilst age provides a good framework around which to construct boundaries, with greater experience it would be better to construct the boundaries based on ability.  Take for example a highly intelligent child, they will need boundaries that are less restrictive than a normal ability student.  Likewise a child with disabilities need more restrictive boundaries than a normal ability child.

I end with a video of an intelligent child who needed a university rather than normal school to satisfy their intellectual needs.  Though such a child preferred adult company to that of their age group, they still need strong emotional boundaries.

Positive thinking opens doors

Reality is what we make it.

Finding money on the ground is more about our state of mind than luck.

Finding money on the ground is more about our state of mind than luck.

Since New Years Day I have found £2.59 on the ground as I walk around the streets of my home town of Colchester.  Apparently Colchester people are getting careless and dropping their money.  Without any effort of looking I observe a lost coin upon the ground as I walk along inviting me to adopt it as its new owner.

Opportunities like these lost coins happen to us all the time, we may say we were lucky, but it is because of our state of mind.  I am highly observant, it is habit of mine to zone in on a lost coin on the ground, a sort of fun challenge that I seem to play on a subconscious level.

Lucky opportunities are all around us waiting to be seized, the question is do we see them? If we feel lucky, we believe success will come, then it is likely we will see the opportunities and thus benefit from what they will bring to us.  Those of a negative disposition to life will blind themselves, their minds will filter out the positive opportunities in favour of the self-fulfilling negative reality they create.

Those with a positive outlook have a positive body language, which is conveyed to those around them, who reciprocate with positive responses.  I gain a lot of business from recommendation, which is assisted because of a positive attitude to those who recommend me.


Sustainability Action 8 : supporting local independent shops

As consumers we have the power of choice to support sustainable businesses.  Today I marked a simple beginning to support local independent businesses in Colchester by buying from them rather than large corporate chains.  I today purchased a couple of bananas from a small local fruit and vegetable shop instead of going to a large retail corporate food store.